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Anonymous, Random Acts of Kindness

We have all read the stories, the tab paid by some stranger.  The super tip left behind.  However, it is the small ones that sometimes go unreported that can make all the difference.  This morning was one of those times you stumble upon one of those small things that just might make a difference…


There were a dozen odd chalk messages scrolled on the neighborhood sidewalks.


Some were whimsical and quite cliche, and others were straight to the point.


But all were positive and uplifting, they brought a smile to your face, but above all were simply “just there” for everyone to read.


The real beauty is that we will never really know who did it, and we are all better for it, the not knowing.  An all too aware adult or an innocent child?  It does not matter.  It is the message that matters, and I for one am better for it.

A thanks is owed to someone, and whomever they are, please know I am grateful and the message has been passed.

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From Have to Get

No one likes to be told what to do.  Being told we have to do something is almost as bad, or sometimes worse.  There are not many givens in this world, but if you want to see a kid shut down, tell them they have to do something.  However, you want to see a genius, I give you Tom Sawyer and his whitewashing of the fence.

“Like it? Well, I don’t see why I oughtn’t to like it. Does a boy get a chance to whitewash a fence every day?”

That put the thing in a new light. Ben stopped nibbling his apple. Tom swept his brush daintily back and forth – stepped back to note the effect – added a touch here and there – criticized the effect again – Ben watching every move and getting more and more interested, more and more absorbed. Presently he said:

“Say, Tom, let me whitewash a little.”

Tom Sawyer – Mark Twain

It is one of the great moments in American literature, and it is one of the best examples of how paradigm makes all the difference.  Tom had to whitewash the fence – he was miserable.  However when he “enabled” others to convince themselves that they might get to do it – they were ecstatic.  Tom helped them to shift their paradigm concerning the task.  No longer did Tom have to whitewash.  Now they would get to whitewash.

Changing perspective makes all the difference.  It seems so meaningless really – it is just changing one word.  “I have to change careers”, “We have to move”, “I have to find a job”, “The business is changing – we have to find new opportunities” are all laced with negatives, with fear, and with pressure.  “I get to change careers”, “We get to move”, “I get to find a new job”, “The business is changing – we get to find new opportunities” are all phrases dripping with optimism, with a sense of adventure, of new beginnings.

Everyone loves the idea of “getting to” vice “having to”.  It is a powerful thing; a game changer to go cliché.  Another interesting read is a recent column by Kristin Armstrong in Runners World.  It is the same idea, only applied to running and fitness.   Call it the power of positive thinking, a mantra, karma or whatever you wish, but there is no question that moving from “have to get” helps.  Besides, Tom Sawyer is a genius.


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